No matter how much it hurts, no matter how many sleepless nights you spend over that particular decision, cutting out toxic family members from your life is a step in the right direction. Yes, it can be devastating at first, but letting go of these people will pay dividends later. We must all face the cold, hard truth that some of our closest family members are simply too toxic and can hurt you in more ways than you can imagine.
It can be your mother, your father, your sibling or a more distant relative – no matter how close you think you’ve been, their toxic influence is one of the factors that can destroy your life. Remember – you should put yourself first – putting your emotional and physical health in jeopardy just because someone doesn’t think before talking is selfish. In this case, you should break up the seemingly unbreakable bond and you should feel better after a while.
If you suspect someone from your close family is ‘toxic’ but you aren’t sure, here are a few signs that can help you recognize them easier:
They Are Judgmental
Nothing more wrong than a judgmental person, are we right? To speak the truth, we’re all a bit judgmental, but we choose not to show it. Some people, however, are openly judgmental about everything you do to the point that it’s simply hard to stand. If you have a family member like this, cut ties with them before you come to blows.
They Live on Drama
Oh, we all have that one family member that feeds off drama. If they often share your deepest secrets when you thought you can reveal anything to them, they are toxic and you’re better off alone.
They Play With Your Feelings
Some people will praise you in one moment, then insult you in another before heaping positive praise on your again. This often happens when you ignore them – they are ready to do anything to get control over you again, talking sweet minutes after insulting you. These people can truly be called toxic and are nothing more than manipulators. If you ask us, you should cut ties with them as soon as you can.
They Appear Only When They Want Something Off You
No matter if it’s your friend or a close family member, people who appear out of nowhere only when they need something are not really fond of you. They will be your best friend until they get what they need, then they’ll hit the road again. You don’t need these people in your life – it only creates unnecessary drama. Just cut them off and spend time with those that truly care for you.
They Gaslight You
Do you know what gaslighting is? It’s a type of technique which allows people to sow the seeds of doubt in others in order to gain control over them and make them question their own sanity. If you have someone that does this in your life, walk out the door and never look back.
Recognized a toxic family member yet? As soon as you do, cut them off your life and don’t worry – things will be much better soon.